Archive for August, 2013

no regrets

There is a current trend in social media to promote the worldly philosophy of “no regrets”.  Essentially, the philosophy is to not regret anything.  Don’t regret anything that once made you smile. Don’t regret because at one time that is what you wanted.  Don’t regret your past, just the time you spent with the wrong people.  Regret nothing.

If I understand the concept, people don’t like the feeling of regret, nor do they like the self-punishment that comes with it. They seek to alleviate these negative feelings with the philosophy; regret nothing. Social media and blog content list unfortunate actions that lead to regret; dating a jerk, getting a misspelled tattoo, buying a Prius, and staying in a miserable dead-end job. I highly recommend that for these behaviors and similar, move on and get over them. The rest of this article does NOT deal with these embarrassing situations.  However, there are numerous examples of immoral behavior that the proponents of this philosophy wish to escape;  drunkenness, becoming pregnant at 14, sex with a stranger, selfishly destroying a relationship, wasting time, and stealing.  It is in this area that I am concerned.

Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. – 2 Corinthians 7:10

Regret and guilt are synonymous (the philosophers will say that guilt is extreme regret).  Sin leads to guilt.  It is best to respond to guilt with repentance rather than a stubborn denial of accountability.  Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret.  You can live with no regrets with simple faith in Christ and repentance from sin.  That’s a much better deal than a mantra. Here are the easy steps

How to Deal with the Feelings of Regret

1.  Identify the source – regret is that nagging feeling that you wish you had done something differently.  What is that something?  Do you regret the action or the result?

2.  Recognize who you owe – “For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.”  – Romans 3:23.  It is God whom we owe. So let’s deal with him concerning our guilt/regret.

3.  Confess your sins to God. – 1 John 1:9 – “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins.”

4.  Trust in God’s promise to remove the sin and thus the guilt/regret.

So, don’t fall into the world’s philosophy of ignoring the condition of your soul.  God has provided a simple (to us) way of dealing with the guilt associated with our sin.  God sent His Son, Jesus Christ, to die on the cross and pay the penalty of our sin.  If we’ll trust in Him, He’ll remove our sin and forgive us. Thus no regrets.

This won’t fix that jerk you dated in 10th grade or your obsession with One Direction or the mullet.   Those decisions will keep you awake at night.  But you don’t have to carry the guilt/regret of your sin.  Just repent.